Something I've been consciously working on in myself is the "shame" that attached itself to me when my ex stepped into his next relationship. I felt embarrassed, like the fact that he had found someone so quickly was a reflection on the fact that I was unlovable and undesirable. I found myself putting certain things off because of that feeling. I didn't want to advertise the fact that I was worthless. Heavy feelings, and obviously about my sense of self worth, not the truth about how other people may or may not view me. When I started to see this for what it was, it kicked off such an immense period of growth that I'll be ever grateful my ex dived straight into that next relationship - perhaps without it I may not have looked deep inside me and done the work that needed to be done. Now I see myself as a strong and independent woman who is also capable of great love, compassion and companionship because I've learnt to love and honour myself first. Has anyone else experienced that intense growth of self through their becoming a single parent - being forced to look inside and deal with all the old conditioning and beliefs about self?